Learning from Letting Go


                                             Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in your journey.

It’s always necessary to accept when some part of your life has reached its inevitable end.  Closing the door, completing the chapter, turning the page, etc. – it doesn’t matter what you title it; what matters is that you find the strength to leave in the past those parts of your life that are over. We all have them.  Toxic relationships, abusive marriages, jobs that are not the right fit, the list goes on.

In the end it is about embracing the truth: What has happened is uncontrollable; what you do moving forward changes everything!

Intellectually this concept is pretty easy to understand right?  But it is the LIVING, the action, the doing that must come next.

Things will happen that are unexpected, undesirable, and uncontrollable.  But you can always choose to take the next tiniest step.  Be brave and take it…

Be willing to make mistakes, learn from them, let go of them, and move along.

  Letting go is NOT easy – it’s a journey that is traveled one day at a time.  If you stick with it, here’s what your journey may teach you:

  1. The most powerful changes happen in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over everything you don’t.
  2. Most people make themselves unhappy simply by finding it impossible to accept life just as it is presenting itself right now.
  3. If you worry too much about what might be, and wonder too long about what might have been, you will ignore and completely miss what is.
  4. When you are lost in worry, it is easy to mistake your worries for reality, instead of recognizing that they are just thoughts. Be mindful.
  5. The biggest obstacle to growth you’ll ever have to overcome is your mind.  Once you can overcome that, you can overcome anything.
  6. Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a little while, and that includes YOU.
  7. You won’t always have it easy, but there is always a reason to be grateful.  And the greatest gift of your gratitude is that the more grateful you are, the more present you become.
  8. The secret to getting ahead is to focus all of your energy not on fixing and fighting the old, but on building and growing something new.
  9. Letting go doesn’t mean you don’t care about something or someone anymore.  It’s just realizing that the only thing you really have control over is yourself in this moment.
  10. In most cases, you can’t calm the storm – it’s not worth trying.  What you can do is calm yourself, and the storm will pass.
  11. You can always control the way you respond to what happens, and in your response is your power.
  12. Oftentimes letting go is simply changing the labels you place on a situation – it’s looking at the same situation with fresh eyes and an open mind.
  13. There is absolutely nothing about your present circumstances that prevents you from making progress, one tiny step at a time.
  14. The day you “understood” everything, was the day you stopped trying to figure everything out.  The day you find peace and freedom again will be the day you let everything go.
  15. You must let go of certainty.  And you must remember that the opposite of certainty is not uncertainty, it’s openness, curiosity and a willingness to embrace life rather than resisting it.  The ultimate challenge is to accept yourself exactly as you are, and accept life just as it is, but never stop trying to learn and grow to the best of your abilities.
  16. Underneath it all, the hardest part is not really letting go, but rather learning to begin again.  To start over.
  17. Stepping onto a brand new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation that no longer fits, or no longer exists.
  18. Sometimes it takes a little heartbreak to shake you awake, help you let go, and show you that you are worth so much more than you were settling for.
  19. When it comes to social drama, letting go of other people’s rude remarks is the best step forward.  Most haters don’t really hate you; they just hate where they are in life, and you’re a reflection of what they wish to become.


What is one uncontrollable past event or life situation that you need to let go of?  What attachments are creating unnecessary stress in your life?  I would love for you to leave a comment below and share how you feel and what you intend to do about it. There is strength in the commitment when we journey together.

2 thoughts on “Learning from Letting Go

  1. My current disappointment has to do with something that may be out of my control. I just have to accept it, and move on. Every day is a new day, open to new possibilities. Bottom line….. we all should try to live a peaceful and giving life (Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.). If we can do this we will have inner peace.


    • I wrote this as I do so many posts to reinforce in me what I need to do, how I need to think and feel and behave. So many disappointments are like that mom, out of our control. I need to do a better job of the peaceful living!


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